RenewHer Love & Legacy Mother’s Day Tea 2025

Mother’s Day Tea 2025

Ever since I turned 40, my mom has been saying to me (and all my other 40 year old friends) that she now addresses us as her friends and not her daughter/daughter’s friends. My mom and I have been close practically my whole life but it’s just within the past few years that we’ve been able to really kick it together….and girl we be having a ball! Hands down, she is my favorite person to ki-ki with.

Today me and my girl went to a Mother’s Day Tea hosted by the women of World Overcomers Church in Durham, NC. We got all dressed up Southern Tea/Kentucky Derby style and stepped out there and had ourselves A TIME! See below for links to my look. Fun fact: I put together looks for different occasions on my iPad in my spare time. This function was no exception.

Links to each item (except shoes) are below. Shoes were bought YEARS ago!

• Dress = Amazon: https://amzn.to/4iN9NoE

• Fascinator = Amazon: https://amzn.to/4iRBzjR

• Purse = Amazon: https://amzn.to/42JPvrn

Every single lady in that place, young and old, were eating DOWN mmkayy?!! I mean it’s just something about being in a room full of well-dressed women of God who are smiling and enjoying themselves in the cutest and most girly girl of ways. Plus, I just love me a good ole nastyyyyy church hat and they were representing at this function on today! I loved every minute of it and so did my Mama. She was so inspired that she’s now planning a Tea at her home church. For info on my Mom’s look, shoot me an email!

More than the fashion at this event was the amazing fellowship and sharing of wisdom from women in various seasons of their lives. As a storyteller myself, I’ve always been in awe of listening to stories and wisdom from women who are older than me and those who just have more experience than me in a particular aspect of life. The gems that were poured out at this function were so heart felt and edifying. So many of their stories touched me and inspired me in more ways than one!

The event also had games and favors and a balloon arch for photos, which is where we took the picture above. Now they had some cute lil finger foods at this function that we nibbled on, but the moment me and my Mama stepped out of there we immediately asked each other where we were going to eat. We made our way to Bonefish and ate good while catching each other up on all the things. Now me and my Mama both laugh really loud so we had to try extra hard to laugh softly and cutesy as we had come straight from the function in our Mother’s Day Tea attire and we could not be up in there looking like dignified ladies while hollering laughing like hyenas lol. We were definitely the overdressed women in the restaurant. But it was cool, we still had a time cackling and eating and sipping.

As Mother’s Day approaches and after spending days like this with my Mama, I’m reminded of how incredibly blessed I am to have her in my life, and to have such a great relationship with her. I’m grateful that she’s shown me such a good example of the kind of relationship that I want to cultivate with my own daughter. I’m always praying for all mothers and daughters more often around this time of year because I know there is often times unresolved issues, trauma and pain within this dynamic that can stir up in this season. Whether you’re a mother, daughter or both, I pray that you have peace and joy during this season regardless of your circumstances.

Love and Blessings,

~Ros

Write Your Book in 90 Days (or Less!)

Every time I release a new book, my emails and DMs get flooded with questions from people who want to know how to write and publish a book of their own. It’s like a script at this point. It always goes a little something like this…

“Hey Rosalyn. I have a book that I have been wanting to write for 10 years. I have some of it written down in a journal, some written down on pieces of paper. I just don’t know how to put it together and get started.”

I get it. You don’t know what you don’t know. But I’m here to tell you that writing a book is not as hard as you think. I always tell people that you have at least 5 different books in you at any given time. If you have lived, chile you got some stories to tell! As far as putting it together, it can be done, and it can be done fairly quickly. So for the next 4 weeks, I’ll be doing a blog series all about how to plan, write, publish and sell your book in 90 days or less! This week, we’ll start with the planning. Let’s get into it…

1. Who Are You Writing To?

You may already have a story or topic that you want to write about, but you need to know who your reader is. Think about who would benefit the most from your story. Even if it’s a fictional story, who would enjoy reading it the most? Who would the storyline resonate with the most? You have to understand your reader: What are their likes and dislikes? What are they afraid of? What lights them up? What kinds of things do they dream about? What are they passionate about? You have to be clear about all of this before you begin typing up your manuscript because it all will determine the tone in which you use to speak to them.

2. What Is Your Why?

When your readers read the last page of your book, what do you want them to walk away with that they didn’t have before opening your book? This is the best way that I can describe IMPACT. It can be educational, inspirational, or just flat out entertaining. Regardless of what it is, it’s really the overarching goal of your writing. It’s your WHY. Why did you even want to write the book? You need to know this because you will probably get to a point in the process where you either want to quit, or lose motivation and you’re going to need a strong WHY to stand on to keep going and to ensure that your readers get what they need from you.

3. Set A Release Date And Stick To It!

Listen, deadlines are my best tools for personal accountability. Picking a date that is attainable but also not too far out will help you stay on track with your progression and milestones. Make a checklist of everything that you need to do from writing the manuscript and getting it edited, to getting your cover art and deciding on your selling platform. If you don’t know what all to put in your checklist, you can have a copy of the one that I use. Click here to grab it, it’s FREE! It also contains estimated timelines for each task on the list. Once you have that, you can map out a timeline with a final release date. Stick to the timeline like your life depends on it. A few things might fall behind here and there but just keep going, do your best to catch up, and DON’T STOP!

4. Start Building A Community NOW!

The moment you decide to write and publish a book is the exact moment that you need to start building a community. Building a community is all about CONSISTENCY! I have succeeded and failed at this so many times and I’ve learned that building a community is just like building a relationship with a romantic partner. Catch their attention with content and in-person interactions that relate to your book’s contents. Then keep pouring that relevant content and information into them on a consistent basis. Engage with them regularly and surprise them with gifts from time to time. If you fall off, there’s a good chance they may not trust you with their time, attention or investments anymore.

5. Get Your Business In Order.

Go ahead and get all of the administrative tasks out of the way. If you plan to build a business and brand by writing multiple books, or by pursuing other ventures beyond the first book you’re planning to publish, then you want to go ahead and create your business entity, obtain an EIN number from the IRS, get a business bank account, etc. You want to put as many admin tasks as you can on automation so that when you do release and publish your book, you can focus your time and efforts on actually selling your book and scaling your business.

Bonus Tip:

When planning for your book, don’t overthink the process. It’s okay to fail along the way as long as you learn from it. I hope this helps! See you next week for the writing phase!

Win The Moment: How I Beat Procrastination to Finish MATERNAL2

Let me tell you—it took everything in me to finish this sequel. After five long years of struggling to wrap up Maternal2, I had to get real with myself. Life was coming at me fast with raising a teenager, coaching cheer, and trying to not put myself on the backburner in the process. But I realized that if I was ever going to finish this book, I had to stop waiting for some magical block of free time and start winning each moment.

So, how did I do it? I broke it down into little moments of intention.

First, I stopped waiting to feel “inspired.” Inspiration is great, but it can also be a fickle thing. I set a goal to write just 10 minutes a day—even if it wasn’t my best work. Showing up regularly made those small moments add up.

Second, I learned to protect my focus. Instead of letting distractions win, I turned my phone on ‘Do Not Disturb’ during my writing time. I had to remember that every notification wasn’t an emergency. That boundary gave me back precious time.

Third, I gave myself permission to take breaks but not to quit. On days when writing felt impossible, I would step away, light a candle, and journal out what was blocking me. Most times, I wasn’t uninspired—I was just overwhelmed.

Finishing this sequel didn’t come down to motivation or even discipline; it came down to reclaiming those little moments and making them work for me. If you’re struggling to finish a project, give yourself grace but also a plan. Win each moment, and watch those victories build up over time.

Now tell me, what’s been your biggest struggle with procrastination, and how have you dealt with it? Drop a comment and let’s encourage each other!

Getting Back to Me: Reclaiming My Pen After a Five-Year Hiatus

Baby, let me tell you something—it’s been a long five years. And I mean long. I took a step back from my writing, not realizing that step was about to turn into a whole journey. Life got in the way, and honestly, I was just trying to keep my head above water. Juggling work, being a mama, and dealing with life’s ups and downs had me putting my pen down and settling into a good life when I knew deep down I was meant for something great.

But then, girl, I turned 40. And that milestone? It hit different. See, there’s something about that number that wakes you up and makes you realize how precious your time really is. All those dreams you’ve had? The ones you’ve tucked away and put off because life got busy? Well, baby, those dreams start calling your name a little louder when you hit that big 4-0.

Chile, the hardest part was finding the time and the headspace to write. You see, writing ain’t just about putting words on paper. It’s about tapping into that special place in your mind, where creativity flows and those stories come alive. And after five years of being out the game, finding my way back to that place wasn’t easy. It’s like there was this wall between me and my imagination—a wall I built with my doubts, fears, and distractions.

But then came my people—my friends and family who know me better than I know myself. They saw me settling into this comfortable life, and baby, they weren’t having it. They spoke life into me when I didn’t have the words for myself. Reminded me of who I was and what I was capable of. They pulled my cards, told me I had a story that needed to be heard, and they weren’t about to let me forget it.

It’s something powerful about having people in your corner who see the greatness in you, even when you can’t see it for yourself. They nudged me, sometimes straight-up pushed me, to get out of my own way. And that’s when it hit me: I had to stop playing small and step into the greatness I’ve been called to.

So, here I am, getting my wind back. Finally tapping into that place where my stories come alive and my creativity runs wild. Because when you know you’re meant for more, baby, you can’t just settle for good. You have to strive for great. So to anyone out there feeling stuck or scared to start again, let me tell you: don’t let life’s distractions keep you from the path you’re meant to walk. Dust off those dreams and put your greatness into motion.

Girl, it’s time to reclaim your wind and let it carry you right into your purpose.